Chayer, Agnes Helen (née Nagy)
April 8, 2021

Agnes Nagy Chayer

It is with sadness and a heavy heart we announce the untimely passing of Agnes Helen Chayer (Nagy). Agnes left us peacefully, surrounded by her family, on April 7, 2021 at the age of 81 after a lengthy hard fought battle with cancer. She sadly leaves behind her cherished and loving husband of 61 years Pierre Henri Chayer, her dearest daughter Lorraine (Brian Farrell) and loving son Robert (Marie-Chantale Poitras). Sadly, Agnes had to say goodbye to her cherished son Marc (Suzanne Arcangeli) and beautiful daughter Carol-Lynn (Guillaume Hervé) well before their time. Agnes is survived by her sister Mary Brandt and her six beautiful grandchildren; Matthew (Kaitlyn), Nicolas, Emily(Jeremy), Alexandre (Ivona), Sophia and Sebastian, and great grandchild (Abby).

Throughout our mother’s illness and the significant challenges brought her way, she always prioritized taking care of herself so she could be there for her family. Looking back, we are only beginning to understand just how much she had to overcome to be the mother she was to us.

We were lucky enough to have her in our life for over 81 years, and we are grateful for every one of those moments. She was a passionate, strong and strong minded person. She was an active person always wanting to keep her body moving and staying in shape. She took up skiing later in life only quitting a few years ago. Agnes was an avid reader which lead her to go back to school, once her children where grown, to study library sciences. She was a volunteer librarian, after retiring, until her last days. To her grandchildren she was the beloved grandma with the magical book bag. Always loving, authentic, honest, trustworthy, accepting, patient, active, generous, brave and open to learning new things. Her braveness and strength in the end was truly remarkable.

The strength she has shown us will guide us all on our paths forward. We love you to the moon and back, we will miss you dearly.

In lieu of flowers, donations in her memory to Dans la rue, Red Cross or the Canadian Cancer Society would be appreciated.

There will be a small memorial at Voluntas on Thursday April 15, 2021 by invitation only.


Robert and Lorraine’s Eulogy

When we think of our parents we think of them as a constant, always being there. The years go by, they get older but in our eyes they are the same, we still forever their child. Then one day you are faced with reality and the unthinkable happens. Why are we always so stunned. In mom’s case, with her cancer, you would have thought we would have been more prepared for the news. Maybe it was her brave face and constant optimism. That smile of hers that always seems to light up a room and display the pure joy she showed in seeing you again. My father was always our rock, our pillar of strength, but we must admit that in our adulthood we’ve come to realize that our sweet petite mama also possessed an extraordinary amont of strength. When she returned to school after we left home. Re-entered the work force in her fifties. Well maybe that was to get away from our dad now that he was retired. When she was faced with the death of not only one but two of her children. And finally when her cancer spread and the outcome was bleak. The bravest decision of all, to not prolong her fight and let the disease take it’s course. In the end her concerns were for her family. We had to promise to take care of ourselves and our children, but most especially take care of dad.

Today, as we say our final goodbyes, we think of mom and who she was for us. The most loving and caring mother any child could dream of. Her patience and energy were boundless. Raising four children was not an easy task. In those lean years our parents had to be frugal and creative. Who can forget the half powder, half real milk mixture. The Kraft dinner with only half the cheese packet used. Yet, we never went without or felt deprived. Her amazing sewing and knitting skills, were the envy of some of our young friends. That was until we hit high school and those home made jeans with the fancy embroidery really weren’t cool any more. We all remember those first real jeans they bought us and how we insisted on wearing them everyday, never wanting to wash them. We four children were all different. This was never a challenge for her. She made each of us feel special and important. Always supporting our choices and needs.

She was a strong and strong minded person. Always wanting to stay informed and learn new things. She was an avid reader, and shared this love of reading with her family. Bringing books home for dad to read (whether he was willing or not). Sharing the magic of reading with her grandchildren. Researching health, dietary and exercising tips for family. Keeping up with the current technology: computers, iPhones, iPads , Facebook. We all know mom liked to move. Not a day went by that she didn’t stretch or exercise. Keeping those joints limber and muscles moving was like breathing to her. So much in fact, that she made us hold her by her hospital bedside in her last days so she could stretch and bend her failing body.

As amazing as mom seems to us all, She did have her quirky ways. She didn’t like cold things. How many people do you know like to microwave their bowl of cereal or glass of wine. Her need to mix things. You could never just open a tin of soup. You had to mix it with her homemade broth and a couple of teaspoons of last night’s leftover sauce, and some left over vegetables. She would never just have a glass of water, but would add some lemon or ginger or orange juice and of course microwave it too, so it’s not too cold. How many wardrobe changes do you have in a day? Mom could have twelve. Her body temperature seemed to vary so much in a day. From shorts to pants to fleeces, to tank tops and back to sweaters.

To all who knew and loved her. She was always loving, honest, authentic, trustworthy, patient, genuine, strong and brave. She has left her mark on all of us. We all carry a piece of her in our heart’s. Her husband, children, son in-laws, daughter in-laws, grandchildren, family, friends.

Goodbye sweet mama, our hearts breaks. That you are with Marc and Carol now gives us some comfort. Till we meet again. Love you forever.

Take care and stay safe, all of you,
Robert and Lorraine

Guillaume’s Eulogy

Good morning everyone

I wasn’t sure how to start with this eulogy for Agnes…or mom, as I called her. I called her mom because she, and Pierre (dad) and Carol-Lynn, Robert, Lorri and Marc have always been like a second family to me. I have known them for almost forty years.

I knew I had lots to say, but I didn’t know where to start. I needed to be inspired but my heart had been quite heavy these past few days. Finally, Tuesday, I was cleaning up and noticed that I hadn’t touched the Saturday Gazette. Most of it was old news, so I flipped through it rather quickly until I got to the Saturday comics. There – at the Saturday Comics – I took my time. And then and there, the inspirations came. So I would like to share with you how I will remember Agnes. Through the traits and things, she did, that were most endearing to me.

Let’s get back to the comics…Yes, The comics.

Mom used to talk to Carol-Lynn about the latest from her favourite Saturday comics. For Better or For Worse and sometimes Zits. When she really liked one, she would cut it out and keep it in an envelope until she could show you them. Then came The Baby Blues; how she loved the weekly tribulations of Zoe, Hammie and Wren. She was so happy. But the best comic series came last. Agnes! That cute little girl, sometimes mischievous and always curious. // She probably saw herself in many of these.

You see, Agnes had such wonderful sense of humour. How she would laugh with you at a funny situation and share a good comic. It was her way of staying young at heart. Something that I do as well.

Which brings me to a second great characteristic of Agnes.

Agnes, mom, belle-maman, grandma…. Was curious.

Her curiosity always fascinated me. If she wasn’t satisfied with an explanation on why the computer did this, or why that recipe was so, or some assembly instructions that did not make sense, she would tap you on the hand and say, ‘’ok, start over, and explain it to me again.” She wanted to know. She was inquisitive This was also true of learning new games…. She loved playing games with the family.

Which brings up traits #3 and #4. #3, her love of games. Any games. Card games, Scrabble, a good puzzle, hide and seek with a newborn, Pictionary (boy did we laugh at Pictionary – I still challenge some of those drawings) … which brings up #4…. Competitive… how to say this diplomatically? Mom was very …good loser challenged. She was so competitive, which made her so fun to play against and tease.

After a few games, or after clean-up following a great dinner, she loved to go for a walk. At #5 are the walks. I have walked many, many miles with her over the years. Sometimes all of us as a gang, or just the 2 of us. Winter-Spring-Summer or Fall. I will miss those walks….

And missing walks bring me to #6….how I will miss those hugs. Mom hugged a great hug. Probably a valedictorian from the Uncle Bob school of hugging; mom could not wait to give you a hug as you walked in the house. I could have 2 suitcases and 2 toddlers in tow, and she would be there at the front door, as if ambushing you, for that hug. And it was always worth it.

She was a role model. That is #7. You wouldn’t think of her as a role model, but the number of times, we could hear someone say,

• I hope that I am as active and fit as mom, when I am her age
• I hope that I am as current on events as mom, when I am her age
• I hope that I am as young at heart as mom, when I am her age
• I hope that I can still be as fashion conscience as mom, when I am her age. Carol-Lynn would often say, my mom is more in fashion than me.
• I hope that I can s till be as tech savvy as mom, when I am her age…. she knew more about computers than many 20 years younger // Tablets, Smartphones, Facebook….she was curious after all.

At #8… Her love of books. My first exposure to Mom’s love of books was how she would very carefully curate children’s books for Nicolas and Alexandre from their youngest age. She would not choose these books randomly. Rather, she could tell you why she picked each one. As the kids, grew, the books changed, but were always there. Comforting. It was her way of being there with the kids, even from a distance. // Of course, she also had a list of books Carol-Lynn would like, books I would like, book list for dad. Imagine her courage, when she decided to go back to school to get her librarian degree. She was so happy working with books, surrounded by book lovers.

Her love of books came only second to her love of Christmas. At #9, Christmas. Christmas could not come early enough. Christmas tree, Christmas lights, Christmas decorations, Christmas cookies, baking, and that Christmas music. She’d play it 24/7 if she could.

I would like to conclude with #10. Pride

Mom was immensely proud of her children. Of course, right? But Agnes was also proud of her children’s spouses, of her grand-children and, her great-grand daughter. Picture frames all over the house. Her smartphone full of digital photos. Her computer as well. When we would speak, she would show interest in my work, hobbies, interests and be proud of what I was doing. But not only that, I would hear how Jeremy just graduated from this program, or Emily just did a great craft or baking or was acing her studies, or how Matthew was into investing or doing great at his job and being promoted, and Marie was getting more responsibilities at Shell and was a great cook, and Brian picked up kayaking, was great at sailing or did an awesome reno, and how Suzanne was doing great things for the Palliative Care center and enjoying her regular phone calls. How she was proud of Nicolas for doing well as his job and being so family oriented and of Alexandre for working so hard at his school; and how Ivona was so nice to have around and loved those movies she was working on. Let’s not forget how she would be so proud of how great Sophia was doing at dancing and school and how Sebastian was loving hockey and a lot of fun to be around. And even little Abby, I would hear how she was so smart and aware at such a young age and how Kaite was a natural at motherhood and so wonderful with her great grand-daughter. Pride. Pride In all of us. I will remember that.

I know how hard it is to let her go. // Believe me, I know. Agnes, Mom, Belle-maman, Grandma leaves a vast void. But it is by remembering her that you honor all of what she meant for you. So,

When you read a comic,
have a good laugh,
play a game,
are walking,
getting a hug,
are reading a good book,
putting up Christmas decorations or humming a Christmas carol
look at someone with pride …

you will remember her and fill that void that mom has left behind.

As for me, Mom, I walk every day, so if you need someone to walk with, just join me. I’ll look for your shadow.

We already miss you greatly…and we send you our biggest hugs

Thank You




Private Gathering

Voluntas Funeral Home

4695 St-Jean Blvd., Dollard-des-Ormeaux (Qc) H9H 2A7

Thursday, April 15, 2021

31 responses

  1. Debbie

    April 10, 2021 at 2:52 pm

    Pierre and family, I am so, so sorry to learn about Agnes’s passing. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

    • Pierre

      April 10, 2021 at 6:28 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and support during these difficult times. It means a lot to me that you remembered Agnes. She truly enjoyed the company of all those in her life; she will be truly missed.

  2. Barbra Rigelhof

    April 10, 2021 at 7:28 pm

    Mr. Chayer, Lorrie and family, Rob and family, Nicolas and Alexandre and all the extended family; we are so sorry to hear of Mrs. Chayer’s passing. Such an amazing, strong and beautiful person, I know Carol-Lynn always had great admiration for her mom. Sending you all a big hug and lots of love, Barbra Rigelhof and family.

    • Pierre & Family

      April 11, 2021 at 10:52 am

      Thank you, “Barb” we greatly appreciate your kindness. I hope you are well.

  3. Francine and Barry

    April 11, 2021 at 3:01 am

    Dear Pierre and family, You are in our thoughts and hearts. Agnes was a unique lady. We will miss her smile, her way of lighting up a room, her passion, her laughter, her smarts, her hugs. Sending our love to you all at this very sad time. We were so lucky to have her as our friend, xoxox Francine and Barry

    • Pierre & Family

      April 11, 2021 at 10:54 am

      Francine and Berry, Thank you for your comforting words. Both of you had a special place in Agnes’s life.

  4. Doug McCracken

    April 11, 2021 at 1:08 pm

    Dear Pierre and Family,
    We were shocked and saddened to hear of Agnes’ sudden passing. Agnes was a true friend and she will be terribly missed. We will never forget all the wonderful times we spent together. We are here for you Pierre as you mourn the loss of your dear wife.

    With deepest sympathy,

    Doug & Muriel

    • Pierre & Family

      April 11, 2021 at 8:47 pm

      Muriel and Doug,
      It is very comforting to hear these kind words from such good friends; very much appreciated. It brings back memories of years past.
      Thank you and stay safe.

  5. Audrey Gibeault

    April 11, 2021 at 1:46 pm

    So sorry Pierre, for the loss of your wonderful Agnes. I will constantly miss her at the library. My condolences to you and your family. I wish you all peace.

    • Pierre and Family

      April 11, 2021 at 8:51 pm

      Very much appreciated Audrey, Agnes really valued your friendship. Again, thank you for being part of her life.

  6. Louis Lapierre

    April 11, 2021 at 5:40 pm

    Both Sylvia and I would like to extend our sincere condolences on the passing of Agnes, your life partner. She will be fondly remembered. We regret not being able to see her of late because of the pandemic. May she rest in Peace,
    Louis and Sylvia

    • Pierre and Family

      April 12, 2021 at 2:55 pm

      Sylvia and Louis,
      Thank you both very much. I know Agnes cherished your friendship. Unfortunately the circumstances (COVID) put many restrictions on gatherings such as this. Stay safe.

  7. Lori Leonard

    April 12, 2021 at 10:23 am

    So sorry to hear about Agnes. She was a wonderful person. We will miss her presence at book club.

    • Pierre and Family

      April 12, 2021 at 2:59 pm

      Lori, Thank you for your kind words. She cherished her time with everyone at the book club. Thank you and stay safe.

  8. Jean Lukanovich

    April 12, 2021 at 3:21 pm

    Pour sympathies to you and your family Pierre. A tremendous loss of a beautiful person, her memory will be cherished by many. We will miss her in book club, she has always contributed much to our reading and understanding. I liked her very much. Jean

  9. Pierre and Family

    April 12, 2021 at 5:47 pm

    Thank you so much Jean for your kind words. Agnes really enjoyed the book club. She also enjoyed the restaurant lunch (pre covid). Stay safe.

  10. Cindi , Pam , Les and Annemarie Nagy

    April 12, 2021 at 6:22 pm

    Pierre, Lorraine and Robert we send our thoughts and love to your family . It’s never easy to say goodbye to a mom. The Nagy kids from North Conway are thinking of you all.

    • Pierre & Family

      April 13, 2021 at 7:42 pm

      Cindy, Pam, Les and Annemarie, thank you all for your thoughts and love. We’ll forever cherish every moment we had with her, until the day we meet again.
      Take care all and stay safe.

  11. Elsa, Dylan, Rosemary and Xavier Hervé

    April 12, 2021 at 9:46 pm

    Agnès Chayer fut une femme précieuse,  et elle restera un esprit précieux dans nos cœurs. Elle a su donner amour à beaucoup d’entre nous. Agnés fait partie de la vie  de notre famille Hervé depuis les premiers jours où j’ai connu sa fille Caro-Lynn. Agnès, tu resteras dans notre cœur, et j’espère un jour te revoir quand viendra mon temps de passer vers l’au-delà.  Un très grand merci  et un dernier au revoir à toi Agnes. Et nos plus chaleureuses condoléances à tous.

    • Pierre et famille

      April 13, 2021 at 6:55 pm

      Merci pour vos beaux commentaires. Agnès restera dans nos cœurs pour toujours.

  12. Lisa, Dany, Emilie & Jordan Belanger

    April 13, 2021 at 1:44 pm

    Dear Mr. Chayer, Lorrie, Rob, and the rest of the family, we are so sorry for your loss. Mrs. Chayer was a wonderful lady who was always ready with a smile and a kind word. We’re thinking of all of you during this very sad time and sending our love to the whole family.

    • Pierre & Family

      April 13, 2021 at 8:56 pm

      Lisa, Dany, Emilie and Jordan, thank you all so much for your kind words. We miss her dearly, her smile always lit up a room. She is with Carol-Lynn now.
      Love to all and stay safe.

  13. Nicole et Henri Hervé

    April 13, 2021 at 7:31 pm

    Cher Pierre et toute ta famille,

    Vous avez été beaucoup éprouvés ces dernières années. Nicole et moi partageons très sincèrement votre grande peine.
    Nous avons eu beaucoup de chagrin en apprenant le décès d’Agnès. Nous avons apprécié notre rencontre, l’accueil d’Agnès, de toi et toute votre famille. Pour cela nous pensons aussi beaucoup à Carol-Lynn et Guillaume. Nous vous remercions pour cette belle amitié.

    Nos très chaleureuses condoléances.

    • Pierre et famille

      April 15, 2021 at 8:53 am

      Merci énormément pour vos vœux sincères. Elle restera gravée dans nos cœurs à jamais. Au plaisir de se rencontrer dans le futur.

  14. Hugues and Susan

    April 15, 2021 at 10:51 am

    Dear Chayer Family,

    Our deepest condolences for your loss. We send you our love and supporting energy. We are grateful to have known Agnès, and will miss her great smile and welcoming arms. We thank her from the bottom of our hearts for her contributions to this world: her children, grandchildren, and her oh so delicious mille feuille.

    • Pierre and Family

      April 15, 2021 at 10:40 pm

      Hugues and Susan, thank you both for your kind words and support. Our mother was welcoming to all. Oh those mille feuilles, that brings back some memories. Funny thing, our mother never thought of herself as a good cook or baker, but she was.
      Thank you and stay safe.

  15. Julie Chayer

    April 15, 2021 at 5:25 pm

    Uncle Pierre, Rob and Lorraine,
    So very sorry for your loss, you are in our hearts and prayers.

    • Pierre and Family

      April 16, 2021 at 7:46 am

      Dear Julie, thank you for your love and thoughts and for taking a moment for our mother. Stay safe all our love.

  16. Martin Chayer

    April 16, 2021 at 9:27 pm

    Uncle Pierre, Rob and Lori, so sorry to hear of Aunt Agnes passing. Aunt Agnes was so kind, loving and generous. I fondly cherish all the time I got to spend with her and the family. Like Guillaume mentioned, playing a board game always brings back memories and smiles. Or how when she’d take Rob and I to La Ronde she seemed to outlast us on the rides. 🙂 I am glad we were able to watch the service online. Wish we could have been there. I am very saddened that we won’t be able to pop by for a visit and see her smiling face great us. Uncle Pierre please take care and let us know if you need anything. Hope to see you soon. Love to you from the family.

    • Lorraine Farrell

      April 18, 2021 at 3:26 pm

      Thank you so much Martin. Her smile did make everyone feel so welcome. She was so young at heart and full of energy. She appreciated family and those who took the time to stay in touch. We wish you could have been there too. Love and thanks to you and your family.

  17. Melissa

    April 19, 2021 at 10:46 am

    Mon cher ami Rob! Mes plus sincères condoléances et mes pensées pour cette épreuve difficile, à toi et à toute ta famille. Quels beaux textes d’hommage vous avez écrit pour ta maman. Je pense fort à vous tous


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